mor news!
Well firstly thanks for all the congrats its lovely to read when folk are happy for you! the thing is you were all soooo wrong about Graham! this will be long so be warned! ok after testing on monday i thought i would gently broach the subject with him so i just said i think i'm gonna have to test tomorrow, he went mad! saying well you'd better not be cos your going straight to the doctors to take something if you are. GULP! i'm not telling after that, we didn't speak really til wed, and i again said i still havn't come on, same response, we are not having anymore kids 3 is enough you'll have to get rid of it, i said if i am i'll get a job to help and he said its not about the money i just don't want anymore kids. so there we go i still havn't told him i'm to scared to i WILL NOT get rid of it that is something i am certain of but i just dont know what to do. i feel like its happening to someone else and i am really distanced from it, normally we are both worried about scans and heartbeats at this stage but right now i feel nothing, all i'm worrying about is what he will do when he knows its definate. so thats my news, not great really is it?!
posted by phillllippppa! @ 1:42 AM
6 Comments:
(((((((((Phil))))))) Oh my love. I've been worried about you and now this news.I wonder if he would've reacted differently if you'd just blurted it out, but of course too late now. I'm so sorry he's being like this, I don't really know what to suggest. Surely he will come round? Have you made it clear to him that there is no way you wouldn't have the baby? Have you got someone close you could confide in? Your mum maybe?God I wish there was something I could do or say to help.
Sending you lots of love and strength, you know where we all are.
xxxxxxx
PS the ring and needle both say girl for me.......
((((Phil)))) There's nothing else I can say that Clare hasn't said already, we are all here for you and will keep your fingers crossed that Graham has a change of heart.
Thinking of you hun...
Ess. x
(((Phil))) All I will say is that this is probably his reaction now but it will change. Stephen went mental when I got pregnant last november, and I mean utterly mental, he was cruel and horrible, but by the time I mc he was more worried about me than anything else and actually thinking about where we were going to put the baby if we did go ahead, and we would only NOT go ahead if it was deemed far too dangerous by the doctors and not because of numbers! Men are strange creatures and even as the mother of 3 men I find any attempts to bring them up as level headed, well rounded individuals slipping through my fingers!!
Getting rid of a baby for whatever reasons is a nasty procedure to go through if you don't want to do it and I'm sure when he knows the facts he wouldn't want you to go through that and the pill that you take is not always available on the NHS either and only before 8 weeks anyway.
IT will all right itself in the end, I know it will
Big hugs
Alx
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through such a tough time at the moment Phil, remember that you can come on here or bc and offload at any time you need to. We are all here for 100% and will support you all the way.
Love bec xx
ps (phil) just a little hug as I know you don't like them!
Oh Phil, how horrible for you. I hope the situation resolves itself and he changes his attitude. You have to do what you feel is right and if abortion isnt for you then you can't be pushed into it.
Whatever happens all your cyber friends are here to support you but I hope you have a real life shoulder to cry on if you need it.
Big hugs to you honey
Kell x
Hey gorgeous,
Could G just be like this because he is worried about the threat of a loss? So it is easier for him to 'pretend' he doesn't want this babe?
The thing is you are pregnant, nothing is gonna change that and you've made your choice v clear to us. So now you need to try and cocoon yourself from this emotional time as G will come round eventually. It is just a shock to him. Please please try and relax as much as you can, cos God forbid anything happened (which it won't!!!) you will end up blaming him, so try and squeeze yourself into a bubble and let him come to terms with it himself.
Not sure any of this makes sense but i know what I mean.....hope you do too!!!!!
A huge hug which when given is actually a teeny tiny one (just jam packed with love and support)
Sx
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